If you have found yourself on this page because you want to become confident in who you are, live with passion, become personally and financially self-reliant and you LOVE the idea of finally being back in control of your life then what you're about to read could be exactly what you're looking for.
More and more people are consciously wanting to take back control and realise that fear and anxiety are controlling them by keeping them stuck into not taking action. Think of this example; the extent to which the media provoke people into unnecessary fear in our lives today could drive a person crazy into not taking any action towards their most inspiring life. I’ve met people who haven’t left the house in years in case something bad happened. When people aren’t growing and not pushing themselves forward, they are disintegrating. I'm being helpful albeit, brutally honest when I say that no one is going to come and save you. You have to be pro-active and make your own plans for a bigger dream; a better dream. Don't allow your fears to keep you stuck for another year. Life wants to grow and evolve - it’s a scientific fact that the universe is constantly looking to understand itself and we are a big part of this universe.
A few years ago I was shocked to come across a specific tabloid, that had an article of ’50 ways you’re increasing the risk of cancer’. Two of those ways were stated as ‘Getting Married’ and ‘Not Getting Married’ - this is exactly the unhelpful and ridiculous propaganda I'm talking about. It’s only harmful when we treat this stuff seriously by internalising and believe what we are told. We need to ask questions and research for ourselves. Does it come from our childhood where we are taught by elders to pay attention to what they believe as true? Are we projecting that authority over our lives onto the media now? But rather than shoehorn these entities into the blame game and go on a witch hunt, let’s look at this from a better vantage point. Who are we when we blame what's outside of ourselves? If we take responsibility for what we allow ourselves to believe, we realise we have the power to choose how we are responding in this world. Ultimately we cannot control anything outside of us, but we can control ourselves and our reactions to circumstances and not let it affect us.
When we pay attention to who we are and what we are all about we hold the power to detach from the hostility, fear and anxiety of circumstances and situations. It takes strength to do this, but it really is your best foot forward to thriving in your life. You’ve got to be an active listener to yourself and compete for your attention with your thoughts. We have to develop our mind to develop our life. Our mind hasn’t moved on since childhood where we were programmed with our caregiver's beliefs systems. Our mind is outdated and needs an upgrade!
What does success look like?
People want to know "Is it possible to change who you are and your life?" and "Is it just something other people can do and have the time and motivation for?" Before I answer I want to ask you, what does better look like in your life? Would you love to have better personal and working relationships? What about money and finance? Investing in yourself drastically improves your life because your life is an extension of you. Those things that are important to you are worth investing in yourself for. Relationships and more money are the elements that initially cry for us to improve, but I urge you to consider the cornerstones of those shiny items such as the ease and thrill of making better decisions, true confidence, connecting to your passion, feeling fulfilment, effectiveness, the enjoyment of taking calculated risks, spontaneity, peace of mind, comfort, contentment and an easy simple life. Making better decisions is about trusting yourself and the sparkling results flow from there. The reason I ask you these questions is that they can come true for you in your life, and it all takes is you choosing to invest in yourself. Because change begins on the inside and gravitates outwards. I can tell you that it’s totally possible and more so than ever in today’s world, as so many people are realising that they need support to change their mindset and have the results of doing just that.
Before I was starting with changing my patterns and beliefs, I used to work in tedious jobs. I also drifted from relationship to relationship, feeling lonely and misunderstood - I certainly didn’t value myself, so how could anyone else? But I was missing a pivotal detail - I thought I was being misunderstood but actually, I was misunderstanding the world and how it works.
Let me help you understand this crucial point. When you were a child, whatever happened around you entered into your subconscious mind because you had no ability to reject anything. Any ideas that you were exposed to over and over again were like seeds being planted in fertile soil. They took root and became part of the programming that controls every aspect of your life. We’re not taught about paradigms in school. So here we are, 20… 30… 40… 60 years later living the same way we were programmed as children. So our lives are a subject of programming from since we were children. We understand from the example set in our early years, if people aren't taking responsibility for their lives or being the victim then we also adopt this perspective. And unknowingly this drama plays out over and over because life brings to you what you believe over and over, until you decide you've had enough and want something different to happen instead.
I had used various methods of ascertaining my limiting beliefs about myself and trying to work with them, and although they helped they weren’t really moving me forward with a real honest belief in myself and my potential. What was important to me was not just the fact I wanted to be able to make an impact in this world, make money and enjoy fulfilling relationships but to thrive and to feel alive again. When I realised I had to make a change I was determined to find a way to finally become unstuck and achieve true forward momentum, something I could really believe in from seeing genuine results in real people. I wanted to follow the advice of one of my favourite motivational gurus Tony Robbins and lead a life of my own design, on my own terms. Not one that others or the environment have scripted for me.
With resilience, determination and courage you are able to overcome overwhelming hurdles and rise up from the depths of defeat and stand tall again in our power. Throughout my journey I’ve learned to break free from the self-imposed limitations that were once holding me back. I’ve let go of limiting beliefs, the mainstream working life and the result is a “I can and I’m going to do this!” attitude is freely flowing through my life. I urge you to awaken to the amazing power you have within to overcome any challenge. Get up and turn adversity into an opportunity and make yourself better than before!
What’s the right way for you?
Some people prefer a vigorous approach and lots of action to change their conditioning. Some people like to flow and gently work with their inner self. There is a right formula for you and its one you will resonate with. Like the famous world-renowned speaker, Bob Proctor states, you should start with answering questions on what you believe to be true, that will help you zero in on your paradigms and identify what’s controlling the results you are getting in your life. For a programme to work it must help you to really see the possibilities all around you. If your beliefs about yourself come from lack, all you see and will ever see is lack. To really turn your life around, you have to invest in yourself at the core level and that means changing what and how you think about all day, every day.
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There are plenty of ways online to discover and understand just how to go about dismantling your programming. Online is a great place to start and if you become interested there’s always more material on this subject.
How do you change a paradigm?
You can’t change your paradigm with self-will alone. In truth, there are only two ways to do it.
The first is an emotional impact. That is when circumstances hit you and your life will never be the same again. It’s often negative in nature, but it can also be a positive hit.
The second way is to change the paradigm, is in the same approach it was built - through repetition of ideas. By repeatedly exposing a new idea to yourself in an attempt to replace the old belief(s) in your subconscious mind.
So to begin with, consciously choose a new belief that is aligned with the results you want, this will create habits that will lead you to those results. Then impress that idea by focusing on it, visualising it and repeating it with feeling in your body onto your subconscious mind.
You must consciously and intentionally replace bad habits with good habits. Be careful not to form another bad habit.
Something to consider
So often we commit our lives and our time to empty activities, with only small glimpses of satisfaction and fulfilment. We want more out of life, but aren’t sure what it is…. We may have tried to make changes in the past, without success…. What if you have a specific goal, but don’t know how to achieve it. If this is you, something is in the way of you reaching your potential. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to identify it and jump over the barrier?!
The art of breaking down past conditioning is a commitment in itself. It’s not an overnight project and it can be a little uncomfortable at times but the pros outweigh the cons vastly and the new you that emerge’s is someone once you could only dream of. Once you've started to see the results from you investing the time and effort into understanding yourself more, you'll gain more confidence, relaxation and more importantly, you will grow. Like magic, people and opportunities will just walk into your life. You know that a fundamental change has to happen when you want something more out of life, but aren’t sure what it is or if you may have tried to make changes in the past, without success. Perhaps you have a specific goal, but don’t know how to achieve it.
People always want the eventual answer to the question “How long is it going to take?" It depends on your desire and determination. Once real momentum has begun and the person understands what they are dealing with, then paradigms keeping you stuck for even 40 years can shift in an instant, this changes your behaviour and the results that ensue come pretty quickly. It comes down to the right guidance and approach – but your commitment is everything in learning the skills you need to succeed.
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I’ll leave you with a wonderful quote from Bob Proctor:-
“It doesn’t matter where you are, you are nowhere compared to where you can go”
You have all of the power of the universe within you. No matter how bad things are right now, you can create the life you want.
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